Don’t Devalue Yourself While Trying To Feel Valued…

IMG_4338.JPGDon’t devalue yourself while trying to feel valued. ” A friend of mine gave me this idea. I thought about it and felt led to share. You can check him out at “DivorcedBob” on Facebook. Just keep in mind I am not endorsing his page just giving him credit for the quote. 😊
If you’re anything like me or most people you can find yourself looking to others to tell you who you are. To tell you your worth. It’s natural, especially in relationships. Whether they be romantic, friendships, or work related. As people, if others find value in us, than we find value in ourself. But that is a dangerous way to find our self worth.
People by nature are fickle. It starts young. As a pre-k teacher I watch 4 and 5 year old kids go from loving each other, to hating each other, to loving each other again. And that’s just in the first 30 minutes of my day. We are also taught early that how others view us is important. It’s engrained in us. I watch little ones cry over and over again because someone said “I’m not your friend” to them. Fast forward to adult hood. Now relationships mean even more. More is on the line. And we have years experience of living the roller coaster of finding our worth in others. It’s a ride that is hard to get off of. So how do we do it? How do we not devalue ourselves while needing to feel valued. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be and feel valued. It’s how we go about it sometimes that’s wrong. So what’s the right way?
Well If we constantly look for our worth through the value others place on us, we will always be looking for their approval. Doing for the acceptance of others. So we know that’s the wrong way. As believers we are to look to our creator for the approval we so desperately crave. After all He knows everything about us. He created us. Who better to know the worth of something than the one who created it? Psalm 139 13-14 tells us,
“For You formed my inward parts, you knitted me together in my mothers womb. I praise You for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” God alone knows your worth! So why not look to Him instead of fickle humans with human limited views to find your worth? Luke 12:6-7 tells us, “Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten before God. Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many of them.” You have far more value than you give yourself credit for! No matter what he or she did to you, said to you or about you. You are worth everything to God!
Now I know that being rejected in any form is tough. It creeps into the smallest of crevices of our being and does big damage. That’s going to happen no matter how grounded we are in God. But it does not have to have the last word over us. After we cry the tears that will come, after we yell the “why me’s” that we will yell, after all the dust is settled, there is God. Waiting to help us remember who we really are. That no man or woman has the last word on who we are, and what we still have to offer this world. Read His word daily, pray, and allow Him to restore you mind, heart, and spirit.
Remember today my friend that you have worth simply for who you are. And whose you are, Gods. That you are not what others think, or do to you. But who God says you are, and what Jesus did for you. He didn’t die for you because you are worth nothing. No, He died for you because you are worth everything! You my friend are truly priceless. Live it! Own it! Today and everyday! ❀

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