None of us like storms in our lives. They can be destructive, life changing, pain filled, or bring about loss of things or people we love. Nobody wants that. I’m coming up on the 2 year anniversary of the beginning of my storm this month. And I’ve learned somethings I never would have without it. I’m not saying I’m glad I had to go through it. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to say that. It was extremely painful in every sense of the word. But I am grateful for what it has taught me. And continues to teach me.
We learn our strength in a storm. I never knew (and I’ve been through a lot in my life) just how strong I was. This experience has taught me that with God there is so much strength inside this woman. The resiliency inside this woman, Yes I get tired and feel weak at times, but He rises me up every morning in spite of it all. And not just to exist, but to LIVE!!!! He can do the same for you too!! Even in the middle of your storm right now! Let Him!
We learn who we are in a storm. We learn our true character. We learn whether we are a true fighter or a quitter. We can’t learn that in or on the easy roads of life. No, only when we are pushed up against something can we learn what we are willing to do or not do. Will we fight for ourselves, our marriage, our family, our friends? (Side note here: if you have given something or someone all you could and it wasn’t or isn’t enough, walking away does not make you a quitter.) We learn what and/or who matters to us. We also learn who we are to God. I can honestly say that without these past 2 years I would never believe just how much I mean to God. Sounds odd to say that after all I’ve had to endure, but it’s true. He has seen me through. I’ve spent many many hours talking with Him. He can do the same for you. He wants to! Let Him!
We learn what matters most to us through the storm. Take for example when someone loses everything (material things) in a storm. First thing people usually say is “well they are just things. I’m just so happy that we all survived.” That’s Perspective. Things that we thought meant a lot to us, at the end of the day, we realize we’re just things. Life is what truly matters. Now in other storms of life we might not lose material items, but we still learn what matters to us most. That who we truly are matters more than how others see us. That having a few true people in our lives means way more than having many fake ones. That loving ourselves, truly loving ourselves, means way more than being loved by others. And that we matter to God is what truly matters most. As a believer there is no greater feeling than finally realizing and accepting that we truly matter to God. He is there to see us through the hardest times back into some amazing times. He is there to do life with us in all of its seasons. He wants to do that for you! Let Him!
And for my final thought, we learn how to love. I thought I knew how to love before. I’m not saying I was bad at it, but I didn’t truly get love until now. In the easy roads of life we think we love others, our spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, family, friends. And I’m not saying in a way that we don’t. But in the tough roads of life we truly learn the word “love” and what it means. We learn biblical love. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” We can only learn in the storms of live how to love ourselves and others. We also can only learn in the storms of life if we truly love others, and/or if they truly love us. Yes the storms of life can cost us some people in our lives, sometimes people walk away. It hurts like hell! But we also have people show us in incredible ways just how much they truly love us. I now know what true love is. I’ve been given it by people in my life these past two years. And I’ve also been given it by God. He is and has been so patient with me. He has calmly waited for me to come to Him fully. And when I did He was not there with an “I told you so”, but with a love so gentle it made me feel safe. But at the same time a love so strong, it made me feel secure. He is waiting to do the same for you. Let Him!!
So you see even though we would love a storm free life, we just can’t learn somethings without them. We are stubborn by nature as humans. We have limited views as humans. But storms have a way of bringing ourselves, others, our life, and God into amazing focus. I pray that whatever you are facing, or have faced in the past, that you take it to God. He is the best way as believers to clean up the debris. ❤