How To Stop Living Rejected…

IMG_4472I have had to deal with rejection many times in my life. Rejection from a parent, rejection from people I’ve loved, rejection from a job I wanted, and rejection from people I was interested in dating. Rejection is tough. It gets into the smallest parts of us and does BIG damage. This will happen to us all at points in our lives. None of us escape rejection. So what are we to do? How can we better equip ourselves to deal with it? Well as always when I need answers to life’s big questions, I go to the Bible.
Matthew 21:42 “Jesus said to them, “Have you never read in the Scriptures: “‘The stone that the builders rejected has become the cornerstone; this was the Lord’s doing, and it is marvelous in our eyes.” In ancient times there were people who judged stones and whether or not they were worthy of being a capstone or cornerstone. These stones were used first or last in a structure. If the stones were not perfect the entire building would be out of line. If deemed unworthy the stones may have been used but never chosen for the most important of jobs. So what does that have to do with us as people?
Well, we can be like these stones allowing others to look at us,judge us. Then allowing that to dictate how we see ourselves. Others will judge us. Others will reject us. It’s up to us what we allow that to say ourselves. Most of the time we allow it to say something like this, “Sure i have some purpose but no way it’s an important one. I’m not good enough for those.” Or even worse, “I have no worth at all.”
But God sees differently. He sees you and me as the most perfect stone that He created for the sole purpose of which He designed us for. God can and will use you and I for good, for His glory, if we allow him to. And there is no more important job than that.
Rejection is hard to take, but it doesn’t mean you have to live rejected. God doesn’t see you as others do and He knows you best. He created you. If you’re like me you have quite a bit of rejection to let go of. Years of it built up that you’ve allowed to shape your self worth. That will take time to get through. When someone rejects us from their lives or from a job, we will be sad. We will be tempted to allow it to shape how we view ourselves. So what can we do?
The only way I know to start is by going to God. To Jesus. To the cross. All 3 of them tell us just how important we are. How loved we are. How worthy we are. God created you on purpose for a purpose. Jesus died for you on that cross. That’s your worth. Not whether this person or that person accepts you. As hard as I know that is. How devastating that is. Start by going to God and asking for help with your pain. Get in His word. Do like I do, Google scriptures for feeling rejected. Do this daily. Get in life with people who will help you stay on track with God. I have people always ready to point me back to Him when I stray. It happens to most of us in some way. Listen to worship music. Music that reinforces who you are in Christ. Get in a small group and do life with people who are trying to do life with God instead of the world like you are. In time it will help. I promise. I’m learning to do this in my life too. It’s been a year journey of learning to love myself through Gods eyes. Not the worlds and not my own. You can get rid of the pain of rejection. ❤
Luke 12:7 ESV  “Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows.”

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